4 thoughts on “Opt-In vs. Opt-Out

  1. Great!!
    I do wish there were links within the subscription emails to share your posts. I also wish there was a link to email them. Just a thought. :)

  2. Im not sure where you’re going with this? Are you saying mums shouldn’t be allowed the option to breastfeed? I have a breast condition which would make it extremely difficult for me to breastfeed and so I chose to formula feed. I live in the UK. First stage formula milk advertisements are not allowed to be shown in anyway. I see an advert everyday saying “we all know breast is the best thing you can do for your baby, but if you choose to carry on…” this upsets me. It is not my fault that I am not able to breast feed and it if a woman simply doesn’t want to breastfeed then that IS her choice. I love your letters to your daughter, my little girl is 11 weeks and I feel the same as
    you on many things. You are lucky that you are able to breastfeed successfully but please don’t make the rest of us who are
    unable or who chose not to, feel bad about their decisions. ANY INFORMED CHOICE MADE OUT LOVE IS NEVER A WRONG ONE.

    1. Bethany,

      In the United States, when a mom gives birth, more often than not she is given a bag of formula as a gift. If she is breastfeeding she is given a “supplementation” gift. If she is struggling, she is given formula instead of a visit from the lactation consultant.

      The “ban the bags” movement simply says that instead of nurses handing out formula as a gift, mom has to request the formula. In your case you would obviously receive the formula.

      Do not feel bad that you cannot breastfeed. You love your child and have made an informed decision out of love.

      The ban the bags movement is about allowing the decision making to happen without the influence of formula companies advertising to the mothers.

      Don’t be hurt by things that advertise to people who have more choices than you do. When our choices are limited by the realities of our lives the solution is to make them wisely and with love and understanding.

      I am deaf, and am sure that there are some things that change for my children because of that. I can be driven under by guilt and sadness, or I can dig in deep and set roots in the joys of what I can give, what I do give, how I choose to parent.

      You know the type of mom you are to your little one. Set your roots in the joy of what you can give, and don’t hurt too much for the things that your body has put out of reach.

  3. It makes me feel sad that so many people feel that efforts to make it easier for moms with choice to succeed at breastfeeding is an attack on women who have trouble or have chosen not to. Efforts like this have been made so that when it’s 3am on your second night with the baby, who is wailing because you haven’t worked through all the trials of breastfeeding, you don’t feel pressured into supplementing with the formula that sits lurking in the corner of your room. It’s to give mothers an extra chance and an advantage in their fight to make it work. Out of sight, out of mind. Because even when you’re doing everything “right”, on that second night when your milk isn’t in, and your baby is wailing, that bottle of formula in the corner calls your name. And feeding the baby that bottle of formula can unfortunately set an otherwise-successful breastfeeding relationship back many steps.

    It seems that there is a battle going on – which “side” has more rights? The breastfeeding side? The formula feeding side? I hate that this is the case. I should have the right to learn how to breastfeed without having my efforts sabotaged by marketing. You should have the right to formula feed without being made to feel ashamed or guilty about your informed choice. And nobody should assume they know anyone’s story on breastfeeding/formula feeding before it is told to them.

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