When my third child was three months old I wrote “The Wait it Out Method of Sleep Training“, a letter to reassure my daughter that in the future if she chooses to not use “Cry it Out”, she’s not alone and that it’s okay to wait it out, and that I waited it out with her when she was small.
In truth this letter came from the lonely place that hovers between methods. There has always been this unspoken half-realized hazy idea in my head that everyone’s babies do sleep eventually. The co-sleeping communities swore up and down their babies slept. The Cry-It-Outers talked about the occasional difficult night where they had to re-train. But in every method there was sleep, and those who were not getting sleep were somehow failing at their methods.
In my heart I rejected that idea, but still felt so lonely. My goal in writing the “Wait it Out Method” was simply to reassure my child that she was not alone.
Ironically, even in my haste to reassure my daughter in the distant future, I never dreamed that I was not alone.
Over 100,000 people have read the Wait It Out Method and many people have written to me to tell me that is the method they use as well.. And that they just never had a name for it. Like me, they never dreamed that they were not alone.
The thing about parenthood is that it’s all about finding your tribe and understanding that what you are doing has form and purpose. From this place comes confidence and peace. From a confident peaceful parent comes confident peaceful children.
Some parents have magicsleepingbabies. Some parents find the perfect sleeping solution in co-sleeping. Some parents find their solutions in sleep training methods. And some parents are like me and those who are reading this right now thinking “I NEVER DREAMED I WAS NOT ALONE”. Some of us are still waiting. Some of us are still rocking. Some of us are still night nursing. Some of us are still working on sleep with our children.
And we are not alone.
Today, after a reader of Nurshable reached out to me for virtual hugs and reassurance, I started the “Wait It Out” support group on facebook. Feel free to join us there. http://www.facebook.com/groups/waititoutmethod/
I’m not alone. And neither are you.