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I Need Your Help Today

I need your help today.

When my six year old is stressed I talk to him about all the good things that he is and all the little things and big things that he has done that are awesome. I refill the positive picture that he has of himself and I remind him of how very capable and helpful and awesome and strong he is so that he can go into whatever situation it is full of the power of self confidence. I talk about happy things and tell him little stories and jokes so that he knows there is a base of positve things right there for him to think about if he needs to.

I see it sort of like a noodle strainer full of fine smooth sand with a few rough rocks too large to pass through the holes the way the sand does. All of the positive things we hear about ourselves sift out easily when we are stressed. Smooth like sand. The rocks, even though they make up a tiny fraction of who we are.. A tiny fraction of the world around us.. Those negative sad things stay behind and feel huge and looming.

Today I am heading into a stressful situation. I feel empty except for the negative things that I have been told about myself, and the stress and unhappiness of the situation. I’m headed into a place where I must deal with a mistake I made when I was a teenager and allowed someone else to tell me who I was and craft me into a product of their imagination.

I would like your help to refill my positive picture so I can go into today full of calm and peaceful thoughts knowing that no matter what happens today there is peace, calm and joy our there too.

If I have ever helped you in any way, I would like to hear how. (Feel free to PM me if you don’t want to share publically.) If you have a sweet random story about happiness to share.. I would like to hear it. A funny joke.. Some happy positive thing from your own day..

You don’t have to. But if you can it would be so very helpful for me today. We all need to hear positive happy things sometimes. Today is that day for me.

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  1. Christine Thompson Avatar
    Christine Thompson

    You helped me to know I was doing the right thing and to trust my instincts. You gave me the words to describe what I was thinking and feeling. You helped me to feel not so alone in my parenting choices. I hope you have a great and peaceful day. Hugs

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  2. Sarah Avatar
    Sarah

    Hi Sarah,

    I have immensely enjoyed your blog. I find that you speak from the heart to the heart- whoever you are writing to. In this world that is not always easy to do. Obviously you are mostly writing to your children. I feel blessed that you have been willing to share with “us” some of your words. I am not the “writer-type” but I love to read. It has helped me to be a better parent to my son and to help define the parent that I want to be.

    On one post you wrote about looking in your daughter’s eyes at some point in the middle of the night. And I remember reading somewhere, don’t look in your baby’s eyes or they’ll think you’ll want to “engage.” And it made so much more sense that yes, I want to engage- I want to connect. This relationship to my child is special. Any time my son and I do the “eye” contact / staring thing, I always know it is the right thing to do.

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  3. Simone Avatar
    Simone

    Hi Sarah!

    I’m always filled with positive energy and strength and new ideas when I read your letters and other blog posts. You refil our positive images of ourselves and our parenting choices so often! I’m not sure what your difficult day is about, but it sounds like it’s associated with a big “rock” in your strainer. Well, try it the other way around! My old naturopath have me a positive visualization that I like. You basically imagine yourself and see the negative stuff as darkness in or around you. Then you imagine a cheesecloth passing through you and “straining” the darkness away. You keep imagining the huge cleansing fabric passing through your body and clearing out the yucky stuff until you’re all purified and feeling better!

    Good luck.

    I’d give you a huge hug if I could!

    :0)

    Simone (in Montreal)

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  4. natasha Avatar
    natasha

    Not only are you an amazing mum but an excellent writer too. Your blog inspires me and lots of other people out there. We can’t let our pasts dictate our future. Whatever it is that happened is behind you now. Good luck today!!

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  5. Helen Avatar
    Helen

    Hey Sarah, sorry you’re having a rough time.
    I get a lot from this blog, and it’s so generous of you to share. In particular, your approach to surrendering to the moment, to understanding that things will pass and that your children will naturally change and develop, is something I always think of when I’m struggling, particularly with nights.
    You’re part of the wonderful web of mothers supporting each other, which is a huge thing. Thank you!

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  6. Simone Avatar
    Simone

    P.S. ok, so I just hugged and kidded the too of my almost 20 month old baby/toddker’s head and he’s sending it through the magic baby hugs and kisses network to your little girl! So when you hug and kiss her today, you’ll get our love too! :0)

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  7. Rachel Avatar
    Rachel

    Every single one of your posts helps me to remember the kind of parent I want to be. You have helped me remain calm and peaceful in tough times, and you inspire me to feel and express the love I have for my son, particularly when I’m getting conflicting messages from more traditional parenting models. I know you can get through this time, treat yourself with the patience and warmth you show your children, and remember that every deco d is a new start if you want one. ❤

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      Rachel

      *second not deco d!

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  8. Katie Avatar
    Katie

    You are my inspiration in all things parenting. You articulate and exemplify everything that I have always felt to be important and right but that I never knew how to implement, apply, communicate. You are amazing, strong and so super awesome. your perspective, and your incredible talent for writing about your experiences, has touched and empowered so many gentle mommies and daddies – I’m so lucky to have found you at this time in my life!!! I mean all of this sincerely and hope this can help you through whatever it is you are going through. Oh, and one of my absolute favorite posts of yours is red frog!

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  9. Alexis Avatar
    Alexis

    From your thoughtful blog posts I have received hope, reassurance, great ideas, thoughtful reflections, moments of calm in the midst of angst and doubt, and feelings of forgiveness. Thank you for helping me even though we’ve never met. I appreciate you and I’m thankful for your courage and willingness to share your experiences.

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  10. Naltya Avatar
    Naltya

    Hi, I’m sad to hear that you feel so bad but I’m glad that you ask for help. You and your blog are so helpful to me that I can’t ignore your sos. You’ve helped me with every one of your posts and each time I’ve had a question, you’ve answered me very fast and, as you always do, with love, guidance and without judgment.
    I’d like to thank you for all that you do and to tell you that you’re loved even in France and I keep you in my thoughts !
    I hope that I had help enlighten your day a bit. Keep up your great work !!!

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  11. Jac Avatar
    Jac

    Sarah!!!
    U saved me on so many occasions! Your unwavering love for your children and perspective has given me so many answers and confidence around mothering my daughter. I appreciate u!

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  12. Katerina's mum Avatar
    Katerina’s mum

    Beautiful Sarah, soul mama, friend across the Internet ether,

    I’m sorry to hear that you are facing such a tough time today. I’m sending you love and positive thoughts in the hope that you can hold on to all the positives that make you the wonderful person that you are.

    From the moment I came across your blog, I knew that I had found a base. A base for all my thoughts, beliefs and ideas about how I wanted to parent. You write in a way that captures not only my attention, but draws on my heart and mind in ways that will me and allow me to continue to be the parent I would like to be.

    It is because if you and the groups that you have formed that I have been able to find my tribe. In the darkness of the night while I hold and nurse my darling back to sleep, I have the opportunity to log on and connect with women just like you, just like me who are parenting in the ways that come naturally and instinctually to us. It is this sharing of sisterhood, parenthood that gives me the strength and confidence to be who I know I am.

    I am continually amazed at how my hats you where, how many balls you juggle at once. You are intelligent and smart. You are creative and practical. You are caring, nurturing, loving and strong. You are Sarah! You are a Wonder Woman … Hear you roar!!!!!

    Good luck mama!! My thoughts are with you today xxxxxx

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  13. Bubbo Avatar
    Bubbo

    Hi Sarah,
    I am so grateful you have decided to share your thoughts through your blog because your posts have been so helpful to me. I don’t have anyone in my life who has a similar approach to parenting so I don’t have anyone I can go to who won’t tell me “cry it out”, “get THAT baby put of your bed”, “he’s STILL nursing?”. My son is a very happy 11 month old and everyone says “he’s SO HAPPY” because “he’s a good one”. Thank you so much for creating a place and a community I can go to for inspiration, advice and encouragement. I can’t even tell you how helpful you have been. Thank you thank you thank you. I don’t know what you are going through, you mentioned a mistake when you were a teenager…in this time remember, one decision does not define who we are. hugs

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  14. Netty Avatar
    Netty

    I found your blog when searching for help on the 6 week growth spurt and have been reading ever since….I find your parenting style and techniques to be so inspiring and admirable. It sounds like you have so much patience with your three babies and U hope to be able to do the same for my one (and future #2). You are a wonderful mama and a great person to share yourself with the world like this through social media. I’m sure that comes with it’s own challenges. Whatever you’re facing today know that it’s going to be what ever it is….but that you’ll have the strength to get through it and be okay. 🙂 GOOD LUCK!!!

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  15. annette Avatar
    annette

    Finding your blog was a blessing for me. It reaffirmed my personal beliefs for raising my child. You helped me see that i am not crazy for loving my child gently, for caring for her by sleeping next to her, soothing her whenever she needs me. You helped me see that i don’t owe anyone an explanation for what i do. On this day, when you need me, i am here for you. I support you more and in the future. you are an incredible woman who has blessed so many people.

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  16. Alison Avatar
    Alison

    I found Nurshable just after having my son last year. Our little ones are about a week apart. Your kind, loving words to your daughter were a support and an inspiration through long days and nights of nursing and pumping. It helped to shape my vision for what I’d like to be as a parent, and a person in general. You have created wonderful communities here and through your Facebook groups. I’ve had trouble finding similarity in local groups and I really enjoy the perspectives of the WIO and gentle parenting participants. Thank you for all you do for children and parents. I hope that whatever this day holds for you, it passes swiftly and that the words of all of us help carry you through.

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  17. Kara Avatar
    Kara

    Hi Sarah,

    You are such a beautiful person and mama. You have inspired me to be more confident in my abilities as a mama and to be more compassionate with my baby during tough times (and good times as well) than I could have done alone. So many mamas and babies are benefiting from your wisdom and love that you give your own children. You are like the calm eye of this tornado that can be parenting sometimes. I hope you can take that sense of calm with you today. Stay strong and know that you give so much to the world and world will return the favor by being kind and compassionate to you.

    Hugs,
    Kara

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  18. Kori Avatar
    Kori

    Sarah, I don’t know you, but your words of healing, encouragement and support echo through my mind day after day. I don’t know your voice, but I hear you encouraging me in the middle of the night (or day!) when I am oh so very tired and don’t think I have any more patience.

    You are an amazing woman, mother, author and I assume friend. You have brought together thousands of women and men, mothers and fathers into a community of support. Having no family nearby and few friends who raise their babies the same way, I turn to this community as my own. I ask questions, provide what help I can and have my doubts dispelled each and every time I start reading others’ stories on our facebook page.

    We all make mistakes. That’s the thing about us humans, we make mistakes. The beauty in them is what we take from them, learn from them. I don’t know what mistake you made and it doesn’t really matter. It doesn’t define you. Your strength, kindness, loving, caring nature is what defines you.

    I wish you well today. I wish you peace today.

    Thank you for everything you are and bring to this world.

    Your friend, Kori

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  19. Laura Lee Avatar
    Laura Lee

    Sarah
    I am sending up prayers for strength and serenity for you as you handle whatever this is. Your posts have helped remember and reframe my struggles with AP – it is so hard to buck the “norm”. Now that my girls are older, your posts help me to remember how young they still are and the importance of my respect for them. The love and respect for your children shines through with each post (even when it’s a post of some frustration 🙂 ). Good luck today, Laura

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  20. lisa Avatar
    lisa

    you helped me tangibly by running that wrap fabric co-op 🙂
    but your writing has helped me so much as i walk this parenting journey, your words often hitting upon my unarticulated feelings and beliefs. more than once, i have sent posts– either breastfeeding reference type into, or parenting feelings posts– to numerous friends. you share so much here and though we don’t know you in person (many of us), we feel akin in many ways. hold your head high today.

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  21. Mandy Avatar
    Mandy

    Sarah-
    Because of this blog, the WIO group, and now especially the Joy in Gentle Parenting group, I am able to be the kind of parent I want to be but sometimes lose sight of when I get stressed and overwhelmed. You created these safe and supportive places. So because of you, last night and this morning have been full of love and snuggles instead of tears and stress for me and my kiddos. Thank you!! You are such a blessing!

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  22. HRM Avatar
    HRM

    The fact that you were able to ask for this is the first as most obvious evidence of the true strength that you have. A strong person is able to ask for help. I am new to your blog but in the short time I have been following, you have given me so much. Not just this blog and the feeling of being connected to the other people on it, but the introduction to the Facebook pages that are a huge help in tough times. Basically, by putting your words out there in the blogosphere, you have given me my tribe. You’ve made a huge difference in the lives of many women and in turn, in the lives of their children which will continue to manifest its effect in the future generations. Your impact is limitless and very positive. As I said in a previous comment, a you nuture your daughter, you nurture all of us. Thank you and remember your tribe is behind you as you go into today’s challenges.

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  23. Jen Avatar
    Jen

    I’ve already sent an email Sarah, but wanted to come here next to read these words of support from this community. Amazing! You’ve created this awesome tribe of parents who walk beside you today and every day. Thank you for giving us an opportunity to support you. We will hold you up through this.

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  24. ErikaB Avatar
    ErikaB

    As a new parent in a new community, I have often felt at the end of my rope with no support to help me. On those days, I often turn to your blog for help in finding the perspective I need to continue to work on raising my daughter so that my parenting matches my values.

    The first day I read your site, you gave me the words to explain my parenting goal: “gentle parenting” and just having those words helped immensely. When I feel alone or impatient or lacking, I come here and read your words. And I always leave feeling that even if I will never meet you face-to-face, I am not alone in my goals and my struggles. That there is a community of kindness out there and that anything is possible. You have created this amazing space of love and kindness for all of us.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I will hold you in the light today and send you many happy thoughts.

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  25. Kathleen Avatar
    Kathleen

    The first time I read your blog, my son was about 2 1/2 months old and going through a REALLY bad phase of not sleeping well at night. It was a letter to your daughter about when people ask how she sleeps and your response was “like a baby”. I cried like a baby because I felt understood in that moment. Your words have me the strength to know that I would make it. That I could survive the sleep deprivation and the feedings every 1-2 hours. He was sleeping exactly how he needed to be. He’s still not a great nighttime sleeper but, whenever I get frustrated, I remember that letter. Thank you for helping me see the bigger picture!

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  26. Michele H Avatar
    Michele H

    I think one of the first posts I read was about tigers. It became a turning point for me in how I thought about my son. Then of course was WIO so you don’t have to CIO. The concept of WIO was so new! But one post that touches me randomly through my days involves the glass frog.

    When my life seems impossible, I have two things to look back on. One is the first moment son felt the breeze on his face.

    He was only two months old and we went to the balcony to take in some sunshine. A strong breeze had blown through and right then, he lifted his head and made his first true smile. His first joy. He still likes it when I blow on his face, and it takes me back each time.

    Second, is the day I met my husband.

    We met at a party of mutual friends. We all crashed at house and Chris and I woken up early. What followed was an hour long chat about nothing and everything. I was technically still married but separated, but that day changed everything for us. He fell in love with at first sight and while my life was very complicated, I knew I had a friend for life.

    There is so much more to that day I am leaving out, but it holds such a place in my heart. We celebrate 10 years together this fall.

    I send you hugs. I send you healing. I send you joy.

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  27. Jenna Avatar
    Jenna

    I’m so happy to have the chance for my words to be potentially helpful to you because your words have been unbelievably helpful to me time and time again. Your youngest is a couple months older than my first child. And although there are many differences between you and I, I feel as if you are inside my head and then writing about my life. When I thought I just couldn’t take another sleepless night, your words reminded me that I can. When I thought that I would never get through a certain stage, your words reminded me that I will. When I wanted to throw my hands up and say that attachment parenting is just too hard, your words reminded me of the reason I was taking this approach. You have comforted me, taught me, calmed me, and given me necessary hope. You have helped me to explain to my partner why we are doing what we are doing. When I couldn’t find the words, you supplied them for me. I don’t know you personally, but you are such an important part of my day to day life. I don’t know what your struggles are, but I do get a sense of the essence of who you are and it is all good. Please don’t believe the myths you were told to believe about yourself. You are truly one of the most amazing humans I have been exposed to in this lifetime. Thank you.

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  28. Jenn Avatar
    Jenn

    I led a different lifestyle several years ago and had two beautiful children with my partner. However, I was cheated on and my relationship ended. Then began a war… My ex wanted the kidz, weekend visits only, which I agreed to. However, once I discovered the kidz were being used, I went to court to stop the visits. I couldn’t get them ended because my ex wasn’t a druggie, a scum bag, thief, etc. However, I did my best to make sure my kidz weren’t getting hurt. My oldest ended up in the hospital before I was able to get supervised visits.
    during all this I talked with a friend from work. We ended up dating. My kidz loved him. He helped me stay strong & focused on my kidz instead of “getting even” with my ex. 2 years passed. I now have total custody of my kidz since my ex gave up all rights. Thru this, my husband- my best friend, stayed with me & supported me- in thoughts words and actions. Without his support, my family gave none, I wouldn’t have made it to who I am today.
    Stay strong. Use the support you have. Above all, have faith. I am praying for strength for you.

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  29. lynda Avatar
    lynda

    Sarah, you have such a beautiful way with words and a beautiful way with children. I love to see your emails coming into my in box. You raise your children the way I strive to raise mine and I really appreciate your insight and wisdom. I hope today went as well as it possibly could. As for me, my day wasn’t great, with a variety of challenges at work then I got on the bus home and discovered I didn’t have the means to buy a ticket.as I was heading back to the driver who has already moved off as I hunted through my bag a passenger came to me and handed me my fare. There are decent people in tbe world – you and my kind stranger are both among them.good luck.

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  30. Megan Avatar
    Megan

    Sarah, I first found your blog in a moment of need. Our daughters are very close in age, and you posted “I am Not a Human Pacifier.” It was a life save for me that night. She was struggling with unknown food allergies. I was struggling with sleepless nights and a baby who nursedallthetime allnightlong. I was feeling like a failure. Your post (and every post since then) struck a cord with me and eased my heart. Your WIO group on Facebook has helped me come to term with previous experiences of CIO. Your post about the only words you’ll say in anger are I Love You helped me one day when I was so desperate to be patient and gentle with my 5 year old daughter. When my nerves were frayed and I was close to losing it, I picked her up and I hugged her tight. I breathed in the scent of her hair and just held on. I told her that I loved her. These are just a few moments I’ve called upon the tools you’ve helped place in my tool box. Thank you! Know that your are a beautiful person whose thoughtful words make a difference.

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  31. Tina Avatar
    Tina

    Sarah, your blog is a great help to me. I have 5 children, ages 1 and a half to almost 11, and I often feel like I’m running out of patience. Your posts are good reminders to me of how to be a gentle parent. Your posts especially boosted me when I was still breast-feeding my toddler and others were telling me he was too old. They also help me right now to remind me that I don’t have to let him cry himself to sleep, just because people (including my husband sometimes) say he is old enough to put himself to sleep. Your blog is a great tool for me. I’m sorry you are having a discouraging day. I hope this helps you.

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  32. Nancy Avatar
    Nancy

    I am greatful almost everyday for the words you write on this blog. You helped me find the words to explain why I parent this way, which has encouraged me to spread the word to others. I’m sure the ripples you’ve created are huge at this point. And it has encouraged me to be honest and unashamed to admit to others how I parent.

    My story for the day: I’m on an externship right now. My mentor asked me what I studied last night to teach her today. My response? I studied my son’s laugh and smile, and learned that sometimes a little procrastination is a good thing when it means loving the people close to you. She laughed and admitted that she wouldn’t have agreed with me when she was in my place, but she does now.

    You are wonderful, and you are loved, even by those who have never met you.

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  33. Rachel Avatar
    Rachel

    Sarah you write beautifully and often express things exactly how I feel about them. I have often felt sad, insecure, and unsupported as a mom. You have given me the courage to trust my instincts and do what I feel is right for my daughter. Thank you!

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    Joanna

    Hi, I am so sorry to hear about your troubles. I came across your website a couple of months ago, and subscribed to it straight away as I really felt you spoke to me. My little girl is 13 months old, and reading your blog, among others, helps me to maintain the courage of my convictions in the face of much criticism from those who choose a different way of parenting than my husband and I do. Thank you for sharing; you help others more than you will ever know. Sending you love and best wishes from New Zealand. xx

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    mamacrow

    oh my goodness, I have reblogged so many of your posts because they have been just the most RIGHT thing ever, and written and put so beautifully and gently – and they’ve helped many who follow me on twitter and have seen them.

    The impression I get from your blog is that you live and parent with such grace and love.

    I’m sorry you’re facing a tough time – this too shall pass, etc xxx

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  36. Jen Avatar
    Jen

    Jokes?
    What did the fish say when it swam into the wall?
    “Dam!”

    As for you and your blog helping, oh wow, where to begin. Your blog calms me, centers me, gives me peace my of and supports me in my parenting choices and beliefs. I can’t even begin to tell you how grateful I am that someone pointed me your way.

    So…. Hugs to you on this day. It’s only one day, you will get through it, and still be the wonderful you that you are when it has passed.

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  37. Shannah Avatar
    Shannah

    Omg sarah you are so amazing! I probably should have said something to you long ago as I tell all my other mom friends sisters and other parents about your blog. It always comes right when I need it. When I see an update in my inbox it’s like a racon of hope and it gives me so much strength and peace just when I need it. I seperated from my boys father in the middle of this pregnancy and having been abandoned with my younger siblings at 11, it’s so triggering. I have a toddler who has always been very sensitive who is still struggling with the separation almost a year later and a newborn….plus myself to take care of. You have been such an amazing friend and inspiration to me even though you never knew. You’re incredible and I’m sure there’s a ton of other mamas who will say the same. I wish you the strength and peace you give to me so often ❤ mama. Everything will be just fine

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  38. Sadie Avatar
    Sadie

    I can’t write much as I am laying next to a restless teething baby, but I had to at least tell you that your voice has been in my head and heart every single day since I found your blog. You influence the world in such BEAUTIFUL ways through helping us moms to raise our babies a little different/better than we may have without you. You are POWERFUL. I look for posts from you every single day. Whatever this thing is does in no way define you and NEVER has. It has only helped shape you into a person and incredible powerful influence and example for us. I doubt you have any idea however you’ve shaped the world already. Please do not give this thing any more of your previous energy and try hard not to relive it in your present moment. Get through it with the grace, strength and integrity with which you apply to everything. Maybe write a letter to it (the situation) and then burn it and let the pain go with the flames.

    Thank you for being EXACTLY who you are.

    Warmly,
    One more fan. 🙂

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      Sadie

      I can’t write much as I am laying next to a restless teething baby, but I had to at least tell you that your voice has been in my head and heart every single day since I found your blog. You influence the world in such BEAUTIFUL ways through helping us moms to raise our babies a little different/better than we may have without you. You are POWERFUL. I look for posts from you every single day. Whatever this thing is does in no way define you and NEVER has. It has only helped shape you into the amazing person and incredible powerful influence you are to us. I doubt you have any idea how much you’ve shaped the world already. Please do not give this thing any more of your precious energy and try hard not to relive it in your present moment. Get through it with the grace, strength and integrity with which you apply to everything. Maybe write a letter to it (the situation) and then burn it and let the pain go with the flames.

      Thank you for being EXACTLY who you are.

      Warmly,
      One more fan. 🙂

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  39. Bronwyn in Australia Avatar
    Bronwyn in Australia

    Sarah, I can only echo what others have been saying. Through your blog and the WIO facebook page I have found solace and managed to reach a state of grace I didn’t think possible. Your posts often move me to tears, as they express some of the most profound truths that come with being a parent. I am thinking of you today and hope that you can remember there is a large and wonderful tribe all over the world that is supporting you.

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  40. Suzy Avatar
    Suzy

    Although one dag late…. : yes! you can!

    After all the posts above, I have nothing else left to comment.

    Hope your day didn’t turn out too bad after all.

    Suzy (from The Netherlands)

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  41. Diane Avatar
    Diane

    Aww, I wish I gotten to read this yesterday! You’ve given me so much encouragement in the gentle, beautiful way you write about mothering. You obviously have a beautiful, loving heart.

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      Rachael

      I want to write something moving, inspiring and comforting…as you do so beautifully. I want to share my story with you but I can’t find the words..so I will simply say this: I don’t know you but you sound like you have such a beautiful soul and heart! I don’t know you but I have often thought I would like to be a mother like that! I don’t know you but I have often thought I wish my mother had been more like that and in times of my own doubt and need of reassurance as a mother I have often thought I wish that I did know her…much love and admiration to you
      x x

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  42. Anneka Avatar
    Anneka

    Sarah, you’ve helped me and my son so much, those early months of nursing were so tough, I stumbled upon your posts and you helped me to realise my son needed a mommy who responds to his needs everytime, a mommy who listens to him everytime. Because of you I am a better mommy, because of you we have a lovely snuggly bedtime rather than a scream-fest when he goes to bed. You’ve taught me so much about how to reason with my son, young as he is. Thank you so much for everything!!!!

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    Denise

    Sarah- you are an AMAZING woman, mother, and wife. You handle the stresses of life with ease and grace. Reading your posts has made me a more confident mother who can trust her own instincts instead of leaning on the advice of others who do not know MY children. Excellent writing!!

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    Sam

    I look forward to your posts. They often make me smile and cry at the same time. You inspire me to be more patient and kind to my kids and myself. Thank you!

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    Becky

    I only recently started following your blog, but I’ve read back-posts, too. I LOVE your blog. It’s the first one I ever followed, too. You write such amazing reminders about how to be with my child. I try to be this way, but your blog is a fabulous peaceful reminder. I often share it with other mommies, who I know will appreciate it or need the reminder. You describe a lot of the feelings I’ve had with my daughter far better than I could have put into words. Thank you for your efforts.

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    MommyV

    This may be a few months too late but I only found your blog today.

    Thank you for putting into eloquent words so many of things that I feel and experience as a new mom. Your site is wonderful and I am spending entirely too many of my too few sleep hours browsing it.

    I hope that your stressful experience has resolved successfully, and that you are feeling good about yourself. Thank you for the support that you offer and for inspiring us to support each other.

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    Julie

    Sarah, I have slowly been reading through your posts start to finish. So even though this was posted a while back, I wanted to encourage you as well. Your life and words matter tremendously! I can see that they not only reach your children, but hundreds if not thousands of moms as well which will in turn reach their children (and then maybe their children). You will never be able to fully see all of the lives you’ve impacted, but your words will live on and on. Day by day you are helping me be a better mom and both my little son and I thank you. I have lots of friends with little ones of their own and of course I love them, but I haven’t been able to find any guidance as to how to raise my son through them. Every morning, I get my cup of coffee, nurse my son and read your posts. It’s like a little coffee date! Your writing is so conversational and beautiful, I can almost hear your voice. And it’s somehow always something I need to hear for the day! I wish all of your posts were a book, I’ve been saving so many of them to come back to read again and again (I would also love to talk through them with my children one day if and when my they have questions for me). Any time you get discouraged please ask for help, we would all be happy to help hold you up in any way we can. You are so loved, so loved.

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      sarah

      Oh Julie, thank you so much! I am glad that you find my writing helpful when you are thinking about the paths you may follow. ❤

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