Nurshable

Letters to a Daughter

  • Time to Memorize You

    Dear Daughter, Nine and a half months have passed since I first held you in my arms and touched each tiny feature of the little face I had wondered about for the nine months that you grew into existence. Bedtime… Continue reading

  • Let The Seeds of Your Heart Grow

    Dear Kids, I used to get caught up in sadness for all the things that weren’t, whether or not I truly wanted them. Sports I could have tried playing as a kid, a Bat Mitzvah like my Jewish childhood friend,… Continue reading

  • Tragic Violence and Empathy

    Dear Kids, I hear so much about school shootings and about suicides in teenagers that it’s hard for my heart not to hurt and for me not to feel afraid for this world that you are growing up in, where… Continue reading

  • Eight Months and a Future Weaning

    Dear Daughter, Eight months today. Happy birthday little bird. Skin to skin under the blankets, both of us sick with a cold and fever-warm against each other. You hum while you nurse, and stare into my eyes from behind your… Continue reading

  • The Texture of You

    Dear Isaac, Alexander and Anne-Marie, Each of you has a texture that delights me. The expressions that you make, the sound of your voice, the way your words move across your mind and leave your mouth, the things that you… Continue reading

  • Nothing Between Us

    Dearest Daughter, I know how you look at me. Your expectations have never been colored by movies, by books, by others talking about how parents “should be”, and attributing all sorts of motives to my actions. You look at me… Continue reading

  • Misunderstood Need

    Dear Children, Way back when humankind first came to be, be it through creation or evolution or something not yet understood or imagined.. The world was a very different place, and our bodies were made to survive and thrive in… Continue reading

  • Breastfeeding May Not Be the Most Important Thing

    Dear Daughter, Breastfeeding you may not be the most important thing that I can do for you as a mother. There are many other things that I will need to do as you grow up that will dwarf the amount… Continue reading

  • Overcoming Fussiness in a New Eater

    Dear Daughter, Shortly after you turned six months we offered you some banana, as you were so very interested in it and you had met all of the milestones with the exception of having sprouted teeth. (You and your brothers… Continue reading

  • A Strip of Fabric

    Dear Children, I have the brown and white Mei Tai that the eldest of you rode in as a baby. I have the brown stretchy gauze fabric that Alexander-in-the-middle spend his earliest months in. And I have the white stretchy… Continue reading