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If You Really Loved Me, Would I Feel It?
If you really loved me, would I feel it? There’s a theory of “love languages” where we give and receive love in different ways. What if you speak my love language as a second language? What is the learning curve… Continue reading
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What Makes a “Good Father”?
What makes a “good father”? There is an element of chance and of risk when two hearts come together and make a third. You cannot know a man as a father until he holds his first child for the first… Continue reading
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You’re Making Me Uncomfortable Even When You’re Not There (NIP)
Dear Person(s) Unknown, You make me far more uncomfortable than I make you. Think about it. I have no way of knowing if you’re lurking there in the corner thinking terrible things. I have no idea if you’re sitting there… Continue reading
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Teeter Totter. Where Breastfeeders and Formula Feeders are Getting it Wrong
Teeter. Totter. Let’s remember that when we ride a teeter totter that there’s another person on the other side and that when we go up we will be brought back down as the other person kicks off of the ground.… Continue reading
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Public Breastfeeding, and the Things I am Sorry For
I am sorry. I am sorry that breastfeeding is a scary and offensive thing that you did not get to grow up with, that you didn’t get to see your mother, your aunts and your cousins do. That you didn’t… Continue reading
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“Just” for Comfort
Dear Daughter, Sometimes you nurse “just” for comfort. Just. Because at two you “shouldn’t” need this anymore. Because the nutrition that you get from food, from meals cooked at the stove and from snacks picked from our garden, from the… Continue reading
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Sex and Love
Dear Kids, When you get older and all your friends are driving, maybe one of them will have a car and will say “let me show you how to drive!” I’ll expect you to say no. Why? Not because I… Continue reading
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I Am Still Not a Human Pacifier- Comfort Nursing After Two
Dear Daughter, You turned two this past April. Now it’s June. You are twenty six months and counting. We nursed past the minimum recommendation of the American Academy of Pediatrics. We nursed past the minimum recommendation of the World Health… Continue reading
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Homeschooling Thoughts: Studying
My eldest brought home a backpack full of notebooks with the weekend homework of “study”. I remember being in school where “study” was something that was done before a test. Here at home we do other sorts of studying. I… Continue reading
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Bad Track Records, Those People and Their Advice
Alex, in bed next to me, tapped me on the arm. “I just can’t sleep.” I said. I had a weird dream, the type of dream that gets my brain revved up to a million miles a minute about random… Continue reading
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