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  • Watching Me Fail

    Dear Eldest, When I was eight years old I quit learning how to crochet after I learned the first and most basic stitch. The chain stitch. The next step up was “too hard”. Now, at thirty-two I am learning to… Continue reading

  • Like a Hug

    Dear Daughter, You are four and a half months old. Your crazy curly hair that you were born with has been pulled up into pigtails and you are learning how to sit up. You smile, laugh and chatter in your… Continue reading

  • When We Do a 180

    Dear Oldest, You are five and a half. You’ve discovered by now that adults are sometimes fickle things. One moment laughing and enjoying that thing that you’re doing, and the next moment annoyed. We need to be more patient with… Continue reading

  • Pulled Under

    There is a photograph of me that I absolutely love. It is not a flattering one, but it is from a time when I was under pressure to always look appealing, a task I seldom lived up to. I’m crouching… Continue reading

  • I Value Your Trust

    Dear I, A and K, When you were born you were placed in my arms and you trusted me. You had no reason not to. Your needs had been met absolutely and without fail for the nine months that were… Continue reading

  • The Baby Not The Person

    Dear Daughter, Someone once said to me that their son was “Not Arron*, but the baby that will become Arron”. At the time it sounded deep. After all we spend so little time in our babyhood and childhood compared to… Continue reading

  • The Place We Met

    Dear Daughter, Third of three, you came after fourteen hours of labor on my side in a bed while I bled from a partial abruption unable to dance through the pain the way I had done with your brothers. Standing… Continue reading

  • Why You Are Intact

    Dear Sons, Today the AAP released their analysis of the benefits and risks of circumcision. They have taken an odd hybrid stance where they say that the benefits outweigh the risks but that they cannot recommend routine infant circumcision. They… Continue reading

  • Your Body, Your Space

    Dear Kids, The oldest of you has already started being exposed to teasing. The younger two of you have yet to be. Let me tell you a secret. You will be teased no matter what. For attracting attention or for… Continue reading

  • Mine to Love

    Shh.. Just the two of us in a dim-lit room. No matter how small you’ve been you’re as small as you’re ever going to be. Sharply sweet with milky breath and chubby cheeks. Quiet calm even though you do not… Continue reading