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  • Pumping Too Much Milk is Not Good

    This year I planted an experimental garden. Among the plants I chose were cherry tomatoes. These little tomatoes are very prolific. So prolific in fact that I cannot pick them all and handfulls of them fall to the ground to… Continue reading

  • You Are Not Crying to Manipulate Me

    Dear Daughter, You are not crying to manipulate me. You are crying because you are hungry and I missed your quieter cues. You are asking to nurse because your little belly tells you that it is time and because a… Continue reading

  • Wrap Baby (WIO)

    I love wraps and babywearing because they put so much sleep related stuff under baby’s control. A baby in a wrap has supported independence. They are able to make choices about their comfort and are actively involved in how and… Continue reading

  • What Do You Mean No Tigers Will Eat Me?

    Why do babies cry when we put them down? What do you mean? Of COURSE babies cry when you put them down. You see.. At the beginning of mankind the world was a very different place. Tigers and bears and… Continue reading

  • Learning to Self Soothe (WIO)

    Dear Middlechild, This past week you’ve been unhappy in the middle of the night, waking up and wanting to come into our bed. You have had the “ick” but also you have been going through a bit of sleep regression. … Continue reading

  • Commitment

    Dear Daughter, Before your father I was married to another man. It did not work out. My ex husband and your father have taught me about commitment through what each one gave and could not give. Your father and I… Continue reading

  • Growing Up Broken

    Dear Kids, When I was five, just about a month before my sixth birthday, I broke. It was the Friday before Easter, and my grandmother Millie was visiting. We were sitting on the old wooden steps in front of my… Continue reading

  • Independent of Comparison

    Dear Daughter, I am probably going to write quite a bit to you about self acceptance and love. It is something that I struggle with, and something that I hope to be able to pass to you as a gift.… Continue reading

  • Fever Hot

    Dear Middlechild, Last night at four AM you woke crying for a drink of water. Your skin burned against mine as I kissed your forehead. You drank your water and laid close talking to me in your little baby voice,… Continue reading

  • Rotten Day

    Dear Kids, Today was a rotten day. A terrible rotten day, actually. Not the type of “bad” day where you find out a loved one has cancer or that your dog died. But a lethargic unfun blah day. Eldest, you… Continue reading