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  • If You Love Her, Shut Up.

    Dear Friends and Family Members, If you love my daughter, or if you love your daughter, or if you love any little girl.. Shut up. Stop talking about your body as though it is ugly. Stop talking about your too-big… Continue reading

  • The Guilt of Doing What We Feel is Right

    Dear Daughter, I have started to realize a theme in my writings to you. I write a lot about the guilt of overcoming what I am told by pop-culture parenting and “the old way”, and doing what I feel is… Continue reading

  • The Intersection of Want and Need

    Dear Two Year Old MiddleChild aka Mr. McScreamingScreechyPants, Here we are at the intersection of Want and Need. As a baby your “wants” and your needs” are one and the same and largely simple in their nature. Then you reach… Continue reading

  • How I Wrap

    This is how I do a high/neat wrap. The key elements are: You want to only keep track of what touches your body- forget about the ends. If you focus on the full 5 or 6 yards of fabric you’ll… Continue reading

  • Routine Questions

    Dear Daughter, As a parent with a four month old I’m asked “routine questions” as a part of every pediatrician’s visit, every time someone strikes up a conversation about your cuteness, and when you cry a little more than usual.… Continue reading

  • Opt-In vs. Opt-Out

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  • A Five Year Old With a Five Inch Mohawk

    Dear Eldest Child, Yesterday you brought home a picture of yourself from summer camp, handed it to me, and told me that it was to remind me that I needed to make your mohawk awesome again. You see, when you… Continue reading

  • When Do We Lose Our Comfort?

    Dear Daughter, You are at ease in your body. You mold yourself to mine in the comfort of the wrap where we both spend our days. When does the comfort end? Most women that I know struggle with their bodies,… Continue reading

  • When You Were Two

    When you were two you laid in a basket on the deck and stared up at the trees. You found a bird and you laughed. It was sunny, and you lay there being lazy and happy in the morning for… Continue reading

  • Don’t Manipulate Me

    Dear Critters-Three, Apparently the three of you have been born evil super-geniuses that will manipulate me at every given opportunity. And apparently that manipulation starts off with a simple cry that coerces me into picking you up and holding you… Continue reading